Sadly, domestic violence is a problem that affects women in abusive relationships year-round. However, cases in domestic abuse tend to increase particularly during the holidays from Thanksgiving to New Year’s.
While there is never an excuse for someone committing acts of violence towards their partner, some of the reasons research shows abuse goes up during this time are:
- Abusers in a relationship are more likely to engage in activities of drinking or the use of drugs when not working as much.
- With more time at home with their partner, abusers simply have more of an opportunity to be abusive.
- Holiday stress may play a role in aggravating people with destructive personalities more easily than usual.
With that being said, being able to identify domestic violence is the first step toward getting out of, or helping someone else get out of an abusive relationship.
What are the signs of domestic violence taking place?
While some signs of abuse are more obvious than others, some are not so clear. Here the signs to look for in someone you may think is a victim of domestic violence.
Physical signs
- Cuts, scrapes, or bruises, particularly on the upper body such as arms and face/head.
- Clothing – if you notice someone wearing unusual clothing items seemingly uncessary (such as large sunglasses that cover much of their face indoors, or turtleneck sweaters), these could be indicators of trying to hide an injury from abuse.
Signs in emotion or activity
- Making strange excuses for signs of physical injury (such as, “oh, I bumped my head cooking as I was running around the kitchen.”)
- Acting out of character, such as being more quiet than usual.
- Displays of anxiety, particularly about their abuser when they are not around.
- Signs of depression, or development of drinking or drug problems.
What to do if you or a loved one is a victim of domestic violence
If you or someone you know is a victim of domestic violence, the best thing to do is take action as soon as possible. The National Domestic Violence Hotline is an organization put in place that helps with this very issue. In addition to their site, they can also be reached by phone at 1.800.799.SAFE (7233).
We highly recommend speaking with them. Also do not hesitate to call the police. They can help protect you from your abuser while a restraining order is put in place, keeping and abuser away.
How can I or a loved one get out of an abusive relationship?
Domestic abuse and violence is something no one should ever have to experience or go through. In addition to speaking with someone, getting out of an abusive relationship or marriage is also something to seriously consider. If you need help doing this, we encourage you to contact us.
We can of course help with legal advice, but we can also help with filing the necessary restraining orders so that abusers are not permitted to come near. No matter what, the best thing you can do is act today for a chance at a better tomorrow.
